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When
you get what you want, it isn't always
what you bargained for.
Consider the story of the badly spoiled
child who was having one of his frequent tantrums.
Hearing his cries, his mother said to the
nanny. "Alice, go out in the yard and give him whatever he
wants." The nanny went outside and conferred with the child, but the
volume of his cries only increased.
When the nanny returned, the mother said,
"What's going on now? Didn't I tell you to give him whatever he
wanted?"
"Yes," replied the nanny.
"It was a bee he wanted, and he got it."
If you want to go into politics, make
sure that when you run for something, you stand for something.
BEN FRANKLIN
was not always the wise and restrained man we now picture him as being.
When he was young he was often brash, rude and tactless. To Franklin's
credit, however, he learned the folly of his actions, and set out to
change them.
One of Franklin's youthful faults was
intolerance of the weaknesses and foibles of others. He was often bluntly
critical and would tell people to their faces what was wrong with them.
Naturally, he created many enemies.
Later in life, though, Franklin became so
adroit at handling people that he was made Ambassador to France. There he
was greatly admired for his diplomatic talents.
Someone once asked Franklin the secret of
his success in getting along with others. "I will speak ill of no
man," he answered, "and speak all the good I know of
everybody."
Carlyle put it another way: "A great
man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men."
IN
EACH AGE, people of genius
undertake the ascent. From below, the world follows them with their eyes.
Geniuses go up the mountain, enter the clouds, disappear, reappear. People
watch them, mark them. They walk by the side of precipices. They daringly
pursue their road. Seeing them aloft, see them in the distance; but they
are but black specks. On they go. The road is uneven, its difficulties
constant. At each step a wall, at each step a trap. As they rise the cold
increases. They must make their ladder, cut the ice and walk on it, hewing
the steps in haste. A storm is raging. Nevertheless they go forward in
their madness. The air becomes difficult to breathe. The abyss yawns below
them. Some fall. Others stop and retrace their steps; theirs is a sad
weariness.
The bold ones continue. They are eyed by
eagles; the lightning plays about them; the hurricane is furious. No
matter, they persevere.
When you're under pressure to make a
decision and you're not sure which way you want to go, the best answer is
"No."
It's easier to change "No" to "Yes" than it is to
change "Yes" to "No."
Make it a point to do something every day
that you don't want to do. This is the golden rule for acquiring the habit
of doing your duty without pain.
IN
HIS BOOK ABOUT CREATIVITY, A Whack on the Side of the Head,
Roger von Oech tells us about a major oil company's concern with the lack
of creativity among some of its research and development people.
To deal with the problem, top management
brought in a team of psychologists to determine the difference between the
creative R & D people and the less-creative ones. The hope was that
their findings would stimulate the less-creative people.
The psychologists asked the scientists all
kinds of questions. They asked about educational backgrounds, about the
environment in which their favorite colors were. After three months, the
psychologists found that the biggest difference between the two groups was
that the creative people thought they were creative and the less-creative
people did not. As a consequence, those who thought they were creative
acted like it. They ignored old methods and hatched new ideas. The
less-creative people did things as they had always been done.
Some "I'm not creative" people
stifle themselves because they think creativity belongs only to people
like Beethoven, Einstein, and Shakespeare. These are some of the super
luminaries of the creative world, but by and large, these people didn't
get their big ideas out of the blue.
On the contrary, most of their big ideas
came from paying attention to their small ideas, playing with them, and
making them big ideas.
One of the major factors that differentiate
creative people from less-creative people is that creative people pay
attention to their small ideas. They know that a small idea can lead to a
big breakthrough, and they believe that they are capable of making it
happen..
People tend to forget their duties but
remember their rights.
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